Such propriety in our Lifestyle!

I am a Pakistani basically, a typical Punjabi.The life style of a Punjabi  exhibit their love of food.I am glad to be brought up in a family where already my parents where Foodaholics. Cooking is like the most important chore for my mother.The first thing she likes to do every morning is to plan which meal to prepare for a day.

We have this ritual that whenever anybody is invited to our place,my mother makes sure they eat to their fill.Ordinarily all the dinning table is filled with variety of foods.The mere majestic site of all the platters served primarily for guests makes them feels welcomed,honored and delighted. People here in our society think that serving extravagantly are essential norms.Actually the backdrop lies where people start scrutinizing their friends on the basis of how much food they are    serving. Remorsefully,I was one of those people who did measure friends on this scale.Whenever I used to visit my friends,occasionally after spending a whole afternoon with them.I anticipated to be treated in a highness manner with them serving my tray with different sort of dishes.But what I would get for lunch was rather a coke or a sandwich. You ‘ll be imagining me misty eyed but Nahh! Rather I thought “Whattt! that’s it! Come on we have been chattering the whole day and what I get is just a sandwich”.My conscious replied: Yoo baby! that’s what you are gonna get,stop being a whiny chic and eat what you have got otherwise stay famished till the rest of the day.After coming home, guess what the first thing that pops to my mommy head is “what your friend served you”.I eventually stated the obvious because see I can’t hide any thing from her.She can detect that devilish grin on my face any moment.Deep inside you know how mothers always see through you,My Maa being a generous hostess always quotes that “a person mannerism and etiquette is showed by how well they serve or treat you.”

But I questioned myself what if some people don’t actually know being a hostess.They already are so preoccupied with everything going on in their minds and lives.Either personal life is great or professional life is bland.Maybe they don’t know the ways to serve well.They should be guided to this being-a-good-host-world.

I begin keeping derogatory remarks to myself. I realized to invite them over often and see how it is done. Yeah! i am smart right! I know 😛 My friends who didn’t know the ways of proper hostess started inviting me over.They persuaded me to come because they didn’t want to feel bad of coming over to my place devouring all stuff. That’s how I visited them again, they started serving enjoyable well.The hospitality does matter. I think it shows how much effort you are putting in to make others feel at home 🙂

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If only you could read between the lines!

Hello there adorable parents. Thankyou for taking out time to read this blog.I just want you all to give a deep thought to this blog and tell me if you agree or not ? Dear parents!!…Don’t you ever give thought to your fights impact on us? I know you two later patch up But Don’t you ever think of the effect on your children? Why all of a sudden you act least interested with children listening to your verbal jabs,abusing or blaming one another for all the different things you fight about?… Some parents would think I am just a recklessly emotional person and should overlook a fight but I can’t.Children can’t seem to get it out of there mind.As it is said “It gets harder to forget but easier to forgive “.See there is exactly where the  issue lies with children.How can the children forget the chaos you bring upon them and then making yourself normal like nothing ever happened before? Usually nothing’s gonna happen because after a blissful week there comes another session of baseless arguments. If you want to fight why make a spectacle in front of us better decide a corner and wrangle there.If only you could stop and see the expressions of your children for a while then maybe your void heart could sense the tension in their eyes. For me, my parents fight do matter.It just leaves a hole in my heart seeing them fighting over petty issues no matter who first initiates but still its makes me feel bad and hurt deep inside.Then the only solution to this problem is my freed. I love my peace of mind and freedom. I am never going to destroy it by participating in their battle of words or exchanging sides.Nevertheless I question myself I have come a long way in my life finally going be a graduate but why do such fights keep on haunting me? The answer I get from my conscious is that peace, love, care and affection is all I want.Basically a world where they can solve problems by just communicating verbally and having a thorough understanding of others feelings and emotions,discussing everything honestly without creating a rift or bruising other’s ego. If only our parents could create such a world where they interact openly without having guilty pleasures, everything will be solved making this a better place for their children.:) Inner voice of every child!